Ten Signs He or She Doesn’t Love You: The Truth About Your Relationship

Don’t stay with someone who ignores you.

If you have a healthy romantic relationship with no obvious issues, skip this article. If not, you’re not alone. Millions of women and men are involved in marriages and romantic relationships that make them miserable. If you’re constantly crying, depressed, angry, frustrated and disappointed, it’s time to move on.

Love is a wonderful gift that’s available everywhere! Why stick around to be neglected by someone who’s not into loving YOU? If the signs below apply to your relationship, it’s time to start changing your thoughts! Focus on moving toward a future without your mate. Who knows what happiness and joy you are missing? You’re stuck with someone who is too dense, busy,  or selfish to share their love with you. Here’s how to tell if your mate no longer loves you.

1. He or she stops answering your calls. When a mate stops answering the phone when you call, no matter how many clever excuses he or she produces, look beyond the lies. If she says, “I left my phone in the car…” then there’s a REASON she left it there; she didn’t want to talk to you.

If he says, “My phone was dead…,” although you know it’s a possibility, if it happens more than twice, you need to wake up! Men and women aren’t stupid. When you’re in a relationship, you’re aware that your significant one wants to contact you. If your lover denies your calls, turns off the phone or does not text back, he or she is doing things that are “none of your business,” and “they don’t feel like talking to you…” Does that sound like love to you?

2. He or she refuses to spend quality time with you. If the bedroom is the only place you see your lover, it means your relationship is strictly sexual. If he or she is not joining you for dinner and a movie, drinking and dancing, family barbeques and/or concerts and sporting events, it means one of two things: Either you’re a secret lover, or your mate does not consider you worthy of his or her “fun time.”  Does that sound like love to you?

3. You suffer abuse at the hands of your significant one. Of course, if you’ve been hit by your mate, your relationship is in trouble. For women: If your man hits you (even once) he does not respect or love you. Maybe he thinks he does, but he doesn’t. Look at his life and the people in it. Can you think of a person that he would never hit? Would he hit his mother? What about his grandmother? Would he punch his daughter in the face?

Some men wouldn’t even hit a dog that they love; let alone a woman. Do you know what happened to NFL star Michael Vick when he was caught letting dogs fight each other? He went to prison. For mistreating DOGS!!!! Think about that for a second. Are you less worthy than a dog?  People really care about dogs, don’t they? Whole organizations are devoted to protecting the rights of animals. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN A DOG.A man who loves you will never slap, punch, kick, push, choke, rape or beat you. Besides, not only are you not loved, you could end up dead.

Men/Women: Although male abuse is less common, it happens and it’s wrong. The same advice applies to you. A woman who hits you thinks you’re a piece of trash. She doesn’t love you. She may want to keep you around. But ask yourself why? If she’s hitting you or calling you names, she is not in love. When a woman is in love, she looks past all of her man’s faults and uses her words to build him up. She is proud of the man she loves, no matter how imperfect he may be. So a woman who gets angry and uses her hands in violence toward you is NOT IN LOVE! 

If he or she abuses you verbally, you are not loved. A person can say, “I love you” all day long, but if they also say mean, sarcastic, offensive, derogatory, belittling, embarrassing, teasing, taunting, profane, undermining, de-motivational, depressing, hurtful things to you on a regular basis, he or she does not love you. A man or woman who loves you is always considering your feelings. If a man or woman loves you, he or she won’t say, “you’re too sensitive.” Love is a decision. Loving you requires protecting your heart. If the person is not protecting your heart, but he or she is constantly saying, “I love you,” there are two possible explanations. He or she is either A] Highly ignorant about what love is and the responsibilities it demands,  or B] Lying because they want the relationship to continue for selfish reasons. Before you start trying to figure out which one applies to your mate, STOP! You deserve better. When a man loves a woman, he’ll GO FIND OUT how to do everything it takes to keep her. So ignorance is no excuse. When a woman loves a man, she will make damn sure that he KNOWS! Women are emotional. You should never have to wonder if a woman is in love. If there’s a doubt, it’s time to get out.

4. You are not a priority. If your mate has told you he or she “just doesn’t have enough time…” for you, it means you’re not important to him or her. Your mate will probably never admit it. But the truth is that when someone loves you, they make time for you. They care about what you want. If they don’t know what you like, they do their research and find out. Then, they do everything in their power to make sure you get what you want. No platonic friends, homeboys or homegirls are above you on their list of important people. A person who loves you prefers you over all others.


5. Your mate doesn’t come home/can’t be reached at night.  No matter what the excuse, if you’re sleeping alone at night and you don’t like it, but your mate always seems to have fun that lasts until daybreak, you’re not being loved. Everyone sleeps. If your man’s not at home, won’t answer his phone, but later admits to “hanging out all night,” chances are, he’s spent the night with another woman(or man!). If your lady is constantly “staying at her friend’s house,” but she never answers her phone when you call at night, WAKE UP! She’s already spending time with another man. You’re not loved. A woman or man who loves you wants to lay down with you at night–every night.

6. He/She is not interested in your life. If you never get to share your emotions, your thoughts on the day, your hobbies and interests with your mate, there is no love.  A person who loves you will listen to you talk about basket weaving for hours if that’s your passion. Not only that, but he or she will even help you weave the baskets! That’s what people who love each other do!

7. He/She is constantly seeing other people (either secretly or openly). When you have something to lose, you know how to act. Have you ever seen your significant one driving, noticing a police car, and SLOWING DOWN? No one wants to pay a speeding ticket. Smart drivers slow down when they sense that they could jeopardize their money or driving record by breaking laws. If a person values, cherishes and appreciates you, they will do what it takes to keep you. This includes turning their back on all other prospects. If your woman or man has told you that “they have to keep their options open,” or “after all, I’m still single,” or “I’m young…I can have friends…” that’s not love. Someone who loves you will ignore Randy and/or Mandy to make sure they keep their spot in your life. Don’t be angry that the person doesn’t choose to love you. It means you can do better!


8. He or she doesn’t have your back. Who do you call for help when you’re in trouble? Who helps you when you’re short on cash? Does your lady serve you three meals a day, iron and fold your clothes,  or straighten your place? If your significant one always denies your requests, there’s a problem. Your girl should be more than happy to prepare a meal for you, do favors, and/or grant your practical requests. But if you’ve been dating Keisha or Keith for 5 years and he/she  hates to make you a sandwich, or rub your back, that’s not love. When you can’t get Craig to change your flat tire or loan you a twenty until payday, when you know for certain that he is capable, recognize that he is not in love.

9. He or she doesn’t talk to you. If you’re sitting quietly beside your mate, not saying a word, and this is a tradition in your relationship, someone’s not in love. People who love each other have great conversations that include humor, seriousness, emotion, action, stories, laughter and advice. If you struggle to make conversation with your mate, you can do better! Move on to someone who’s interested in you.

10. He or she is “tired of” or “bored with” the relationship This is a nice way of hinting at a break-up. If your mate has said, “I’m sick of this shit,” or some other phrase that sounds similar, it’s time to move on. Some people don’t have the guts and nuts to end relationships. They will simply use you for as long as you stay around. Maybe they like the idea of having a mate; it makes them appear successful to certain others. Maybe he or she lives at your house and really doesn’t want to go back home to mom. Whatever the reason for staying with you, it’s not love. When a person says he or she is tired, believe it! Start taking steps to create a life without him or her.

A person who loves you will respect, honor, protect and cherish you. If your love doesn’t look and/or feel like this, WAKE UP!

Some men don’t know how to treat a woman. Some women don’t know how to treat a man. That doesn’t mean it’s your job to teach them! There are plenty of people out there who are healed, whole and ready to share real love with you. But first, you’ve got to get out of a relationship that makes you miserable.

It’s not your fault. Of course you’re beautiful/handsome. That doesn’t mean that everyone will be wise enough to see your true value. If you’re in a bad relationship, aren’t you tired of being sad and lonesome? Take time to love and care for yourself. Being in a bad relationship hurts. After you end it, give YOURSELF loving, adoring, pampering, indulgent, patient, sensitive treatment first.

Imagine the things you want your mate to do. DO THEM FOR YOURSELF. No one will treat you better than you treat yourself. If you’re kind to yourself the mates you attract will act the same way. If you value yourself, you will be valued. But if you keep beating yourself us about past mistakes, feeling like a failure, and  being deceitful, you will draw that same energy into your relationships until you learn your lesson, straighten up, and fly right! Face the truth if your mate doesn’t love you. No one lives for ever and your love is waiting!


156 thoughts on “Ten Signs He or She Doesn’t Love You: The Truth About Your Relationship

  1. I’ve been talking to a guy by text for nine months. I’ve only met him once he lives two hours away. For the past five months he has only called me once, stopped video chats all together, stopped asking me about my life, how I feel, my interests. Once in a while he will text me that he misses me so much. But, what keeps bothering me is that he still has the video message app installed on his phone but doesn’t use it with me, he takes pictures of his lips kissing, and I usually get the pics weeks or months after he takes them. I check the date information on the photos. I wonder who is he sending them too? He friends all kinds of beautiful women on facebook, very voluptuous, model type women. One of the women recently liked half of his pictures and typed comments like, “I love you” and “Much love to you.” He never liked any of her pics though. We broke up because he hasn’t been paying much attention or affection and, between all of his behaviors it was hard to believe him. If he doesn’t love me why was he tagging me along?

    • I’ve asked him nicely to call me more, ask me how I’m doing, text me more often he just says sorry. 😦 or he just doesn’t do anything. 😦

    • In the past a few times he mentioned me moving in with him in a bigger apartment and getting pregnant. But, he ignores the topic when I bring it up lately. He will say he loves me but he’s actions just don’t prove it.

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  3. I met this guy on Facebook one he is a university student he told me he loves me and I love him back one day he invite mme to his place and we made love.he told me that i should not call him on weekdays on less weekend because he is busy on projects and said we should keep this as a secret.he start to demand money from me and i told him i don’t have any.

  4. I was in love with a guy whom I thought he also in love with me,not knowing he has a another lover out.he want straight to my family and paid my knocking after that he start to show me attitude he doesn’t call me again all of a sudden one day he said he can’t married me again but I just pretend as if am ok with it deep inside am dying one day his friend said he want get married with and I said ok now he is telling everyone that’s his has snatch her girlfriend away what should i do now.

  5. That’s weird it said my boyfriends name lmao craig. But craig would loan me a twenty and change my flat tire. So I guess he does love me.

    • That’s caring for someone ,the Love might not still be there but it might happen that ,Craig pitty you ,he cares,I had that in a relationship ,she would give me anything but u know what,it different ,caring is another thing and Love is something

  6. am in love wth a girl but any time i proporse to her,she mistreat me lik am not a real guy to her help me i love her vry much and i always plan tht if i hav her am going to make her my wife no breaking her heart bt to be with her

  7. My husband and I have been married for 4 years almost 5 on July 11th. he recently told me he wasn’t in love with me that he loved me more like a friend. he said he wants a divorce that he has been unhappy fora year now. I’ve been not so good as far as making promises and not keeping them but I have been trying to change and it doesn’t seem to work. I love my husband to death and I took my vowels very seriously. I asked him to go to marriage counseling and he said no. we have 3 kids 3 2 and 10 months. We agreed to a 2 month break and try to work things out after that. Some of the problems we face are not having or own place to live and may be debt pile up. I really want things to work. The hurt that I feel is killing me and I’m to the point where I don’t eat and rarely drink anything. Idk weekday to do all I know is he is my soul mate and I want him back. he wants his space during the 2 months and I am trying to give him that space i just want to know there is a chance to fix it and he isn’t giving me that chance.I don’t know what to do I feel like I need to give up but I can’t and i came across where various people where sharing DR GREAT testimony on how he help people to rebuild there marriage and make the love stronger forever so i decided to give him a try and told him all i am facing in my marriage, to my greatest surprise after the love spell my husband came home himself and told me to forget the past that he is still in love with me madly. people all over the world that need solution to their marriage should immediately contact DR GREAT vis his direct email: powerfulexback@gmail.com

  8. This is a very good guide for people to adhere to and follow. It’s never easy facing the facts that something may be coming to an end, but this puts some further food for thought for those who are going through such a thing.

  9. Im the victim in my relationship and based on what u wrote here she dose all them things she keeps making promises that she never keeps and I keep giving her chances cuz I know she can change them for her self and I feel like I’m being used sometimes I wanna die cuz she doesn’t love me….I never thought I could leave be a woman like this cuz I am a man but I do so much and go out my way to understand her and ur emotions and when there a problem I communicate with her and find a solution for it cuz I’m so in love with woman😢😢 it’s crazy how much disrespect and in appreciation I get in return as if I’m not valuable I wish she can love me back and appreciate me and respect me more than anything in the world.😭😭 I don’t how to leave she makes me feel so low of myself to the point where she brakes with just words. I need help please I don’t want this kinda of love 😢😢😢😢

  10. This is so hard! I love him so much…. Please share your opinion…….
    I’m in love with a man who is so amazing one to two weeks, so loving and caring. Tells me he loves me, very affectionate. Then out of no where he is mean….. Tells me he isn’t in love with me, he isn’t attracted to me. Tells me he isn’t happy, he is distant and very moody. Stays this way for a couple days to a week then back to being all sweet. This has been like this for a year. About a month ago we went to visit my mother 13 hours away, first time I’ve been there in 10 years, she normally comes to me. But it was her 60th bday. We went for the weekend, he went with me. While we were at her party, the whole reason why we went there, his son said I want to go, he came to me and said we need to leave. I asked why and it was because his son wanted to. I apologized and said, I’m sorry but this is the whole reason we came, we will leave in a little bit. He stayed away from everyone at the party was very quiet, wouldn’t talk to anyone. Then did talk to my cousin about me. We finally left because I was embarrassed, got back to my cousins home nad he got very rude with me telling me that he didn’t want to be there and we should have left when he said so. Then he told me he would probably break up with me when we got home. The next day we were going with my mom, sisters, cousins and all of our children to the water. He didn’t want to go, I asked him could we please just go for a couple hours finally he said yes. Traffic got heavy and he got angry, my mother stopped to get something from a gift store and he started yelling at me telling me we need to leave now. He was yelling so loud that my sister in the car behind me could hear him. I called my mother told her we were just going to leave, she started to cry because we were only there for two days. We left and he was very rude till a couple hours in then he decided we were going to stop at some shops and he bought me a scarf as if that was his way to say sorry. Also we have a blended family, he has two boys and I have four, but two of mine are grown and have their own places. He is not fair at all, and I feel like he is very wrong. For example, my son left the T.V. on one time he flipped out and started yelling at me telling me that he pays the electric and this is unacceptable. It happened once, I said something to my son and my son hasn’t touched the T.V. since, his son leaves the T.V. on daily nothing is said, he turns it off. Another example, my 13 year old left a light on and he flipped out about it, his son leaves the all light on daily and he says nothing. These are just two examples but my 13 year old often tells me he feels picked on.

    Then while he and I were arguing his son came in looked at me and said nag, nag, nag. I said something to his dad and his dad said, he is allowed to have an opinion and allowed to express it to me. I feel like this is disrespectful because he is a child, and our children shouldn’t be allowed to speak to either of us in a negative way. I don’t disrespect them and I don’t like feeling like I’m being disrespected. Especially since I don’t nag, I normally keep my mouth shut and let things go. But it’s getting to a point where I’m finally saying something. I love him and don’t want to leave but I feel his actions are showing me that he doesn’t love me…. Opinions?

    • He doesn’t love you at all. He only loves himself and is just using you to be there when he wants for what he wants. Leave him, he’s damaging your children’s self esteem and yours.

    • He sounds like a real asshole and he’s treating you like garbage you need to be in your own and eventually find someone that treats you the way you deserve

    • No one can tell you “he doesn’t love you” maybe that’s the only way he knows HOW to love because that’s how he’s wired; beyond that point…. Is that HOW YOU LOVE? Because if it was you wouldn’t have vented VERY APPROPRIATELY in this article. It seems to me that with the moods you described he may have some mental health/manic issues. He also sounds EMOTIONALLY abusive. You do not seem happy. A scarf does NOT seem to make you happy, that’s HIS way out because he KNOWS he’s an ass. Think about YOU and YOUR HAPPINESS, I say, Can his ass.

    • You are in an abusive relationship. Period. You know it deep down. Alienation, verbal abuse towards you & your son. Get out of there! Get emotionally healthy, start over, block him from your lives. If you don’t it will get worse.

  11. Back on June 19th, this girl (for identity’s sake, let’s call her May) and I were in a Skype call, having a good time. She suddenly asks me to be her boyfriend, and due to me loving her so much, I said yes without any hesitation. We were together for about a couple months I think, and we had a great time talking to each other online the entire time (we had no way to get to each other in real life). Then, I noticed that she started becoming a bit distant, and after a short series of questions I found out that she no longer wanted the relationship, but not too long after that I found out that her situation (alcoholic and drug-abusive parents, plus a bad little brother) was making it hard for her to be in a romantic relationship of any sort. Within maybe the next month after that, May and I both agreed that we wouldn’t try this relationship thing anymore until we got her out of the terrible situation, though we kept in touch, messaging each other at least a little bit every few days. Though, recently, May has begun ignoring my messages entirely, but I’ve seen her talk to others in our group chats. It’s been a week, maybe a week and a half. I know that we aren’t in a relationship, and she isn’t obligated in any way to reply to my messages, but should I just try to drop it? Should I just stop trying to talk with May, and stop waiting for the day we can finally get her to safety and be together?

  12. I have been with my girl for 10 months now she doesn’t like me to hold her in public or kiss her she always says she not comfortable with that and when out walking in the mall she always give me a space walking distance. She Will never kiss me or cuddle me in bed when I tried to but we could make love all she said she doesn’t know how to do that. She is 26 and I’m 28 just don’t know what to do.

  13. the last time i saw my Girlfriend was on Aprial this year for the first time but we meet on 2013 on facebook
    so after three days while she was at my place,she told she receive a call from home one of her relative pass on so she must go home
    after funeral she go to pretoria looking for job,i am staying at jouberg,so she find job here then,that is where i had to call her only after work
    but still sometimes i fail to reach her
    after a month she told me she left her job becouse of cost of transport
    month i sent her money to come to me but after i sent money,her phone was on voicemail for three days,when she call she tell me she and her cousen there attacked by criminals and they where beateen and their phones where stolen!!
    so they where taking to hospital after descharge she go straight home northwest to recover
    after that!! last month i sent money again for to come to me as she requested,but soon after that she called me and tell me that her other closed relative pass on so she will come on sunday after funeral that way last week! so on sunday i waited and waited but i receive no call
    since she dont a phone i call her sisters phone late sunday and her mother was shocked that she is not here as they all know she is coming to jouberg to stay with me
    her mother make few calls to their ralative in jouberg and she find her on one of their relative,so her excuse was she arrive late at jouberg but she will call me in the morning which was monday 08th,but since then i am still waiting for a call even now today as i speak!! problem is her dont have phone so i cant call her!!

    • I honestly think she is avoiding you. It does not sound like she wants to come see you. I mean accidents can happen and everything, but it sounds like every time you want to see her something happens. I say this because I loved my partner. He was the one who later on did not have time for me, or at least that was what he would say to me. He would say he was busy with work or his family. I still made efforts to go see him, even if it was at work. You see usually it is the person who cares the most who makes the most effort to go to the other, and that is normal, but when it always happens then something is wrong. I had to accept that it was over in my relationship, and not because I wanted it to be, but because in the end my partner was so tired of me that he said he needed time and never talked to me again. Don’t let her use you, my partner used me while he needed me, while I had something to offer and everything was great he was there, and as soon as things got difficult and he didn’t need me anymore, he left. Try asking her if you can come to her, to see her, and meet her family. If she refuses or gives any excuses then it may be best to end it yourself.

  14. i read this many times but becouse i love my woman i dont want to accept that there is a problem in my relationship!! she dont show any sign that she dont love me anymore! i dont know maybe i am so deep in love that i can’t see that she dont realy love me
    it is strange becouse when i try to break with her she always refuse but spending time with is a big problem!! something always comes up when we suppose to meet!
    i realy not sure what is realy happening here!!!

  15. I am really lost and hurt. I don’t know what to do to feel better. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years now, and although everything was great in the beginning these past few months we have had many arguments. I will admit that most of them could have been avoided, but they were not big arguments. The only big argument we had was around May. We are from different cultures so it was hard for us to understand each other’s customs. I always tried to understand his, but I do not think he tried to understand mine. In his culture you do not present your partner to your family unless you are going to get engaged already, but in mine it is completely normal and a sign or respect to do so. It is like giving your partner their rightful place in your life. I brought him to my parents after six months of dating, and although my parents were skeptical at first they opened up their doors to him. They would even let him stay at our house sometimes. At the time I met him, he was going through some family problems. He is an international student, and he is living here with his uncle, but at that time he was living in his office, that was one of the reasons why my parents let him stay at our house. We all helped him a lot. I encouraged him to do better in school and would help him when I could. I noticed when I first started dating him that some of my friends did not like him and I did not want him to feel uncomfortable so I stopped hanging out with them as often as I did so he would not feel uncomfortable. I have to say throughout most of the relationship he was very loving and caring. However since the beginning of this year he started changing a lot. I noticed he was almost always tired or mad. We didn’t go out as much anymore. Since we were always seeing each other at school and home, and obviously we would eat together, he thought it was unnecessary to have dates. I think he started acting more like this because since we had been dating for a year and a half already I would ask him when he was going to tell his uncle about us. For me it was a normal thing. I was not asking him to marry me then, but I just wanted to be acknowledged as his girlfriend. He said his parents knew, but I had no way of knowing because I never talked to them, and they live in another country. I could not come visit him if he went to his uncle’s house, I could not come with if he went out with them. And sometimes I felt insecure and jealous of other women because of that. He said he would tell his family this summer because we were supposed to get engaged. However he kept telling me he would tell them soon every time I asked. The big argument we had around May was because we had planned a day together and he had been at his uncle’s for some time helping his cousins. He said he would come that day and stay for the summer. He came one day before only in the afternoon and spent the night at my house. The next day he left. At night I was expecting him to come, but he never did I talked to him and he said I came yesterday so I am not coming today. And just like that all our plans had changed and he did not even tell me a thing. He thought I got mad because he was helping his cousins, and it was all a big misunderstanding. The next day we talked, he said he had finally told his uncle. His uncle said he wanted him to finish school first and then think about marriage, so I said okay I will wait for you. And our engagement this summer was off. After that he came to see me only like three more times during the summer. I tried to visit him at work sometimes because I knew it was difficult for him to come see me since we live one hour apart. I noticed him going cold on me and talked to him. I basically poured my heart out to him in a letter. He read it in front of me. He said he did not think he was good for me and that was why he had been distant, but that he loved me. I told him we could make things work no matter what, I was willing to wait for our marriage however many years were necessary. I told him I loved him and I did not care about the past and the arguments. I just wanted to be with him because he made me happy. He had been a great boyfriend up until a few months ago. He said he was sorry that he loved me, he was used to having me by his side, and that we would get married in the future. Two weeks later he told me he did not know what he felt for me anymore. He said he needed time because he did not want to make a decision he would regret. I gave him time. He was not talked to me in a month. Not at all, Not a “hello”, not a “how are you?”. All this summer has been a horrible experience. I have cried and cried. I do not know what I did wrong. I love him a lot. I would do anything for him. I haven’t contacted him because I do not want to bother him, he always answered coldly to my texts. I am dying inside. Did I do something wrong? Is it my fault? Was I asking for too much or wrong for feeling bad/jealous? What should I do? Does this mean he is gone even though he did not end our relationship? Do I have a chance of getting him back? Should I try, or should I just leave things like this and let time do what it will? Please help me.

    • Nowadays it is really very hard to find a true love…… Everyone gets bored and tired with each other in just some months! I think he was not good for you as a partner.. because a true lover always respect his girl no matter is she’s respect him or not. You know what my girlfriend thinks she loves me but she dont… How do i know? Because she dont care about me.. she always talk with me about her ex boyfriends! Which really hurts me a lot. Sje never ask me how are you, how was your day bla bla bla…. Anyways I love her and i cant do anything with this…

      I mean to say is that let it go…. No one can see the future… Start love yourself! Stop crying for those who do nt know the value of your tears.. May be someone is lookin for you?

  16. I m in relationship for last 3 months.. We met on the Internet. She talked to me a lot for 2.5 months but after that she showed like she doesn’t time for me….. Now still she is doing the same… I tried to finf out that she loves me or not…. And i asked het that u love me or not she yes i love you…. Every time i asked she yes i love you so much….. But she doesn’t talk to me like we did before…. And when i started doing the same as her then she says u don’t love me and start crying… Idk what should i do… I asked her many times that she leave me if she want but every time she says no.. And start crying….. Plz plz tell what should i do

  17. I met this girl while I was at Iraq. She was from Dominican Republic and had two kids from two different men. I met her online and we spoke on the phone and emailed each other for 3 months before she said she loved me. We hit it off so well. I flew to Dominican Republic July of 2005 and married her 6 days later after seeing her for the first time. She came to the states on September 2007 and my first baby at age 42 was born. I treated this woman like a queen. I paid all of the expenses, helped raised her children, worked two jobs 7 days a week. I paid lawyers to help bring her kids to the states. I helped her get her own business in a hair salon. But after just 10 years of marriage, she said to me that she no longer loved me. I got her this nice Jewish place where street violence and drama does not exist. No grocery stores to hang next to spells no noise at night and no thugs in the building. But she brought her mother to live with us and now, I am living in my father’s house while her mother and entire family lives in the house, I was able to get her. She used close to 10 credit cards under my name and incurred $22, 000. I have to pay all of that back. While at home, she spent more times with her mother than with me. She never rubbed my back and I was in pain. She never helped me with the expenses. She never supported me, and stopped cooking breakfast for me or ironing my clothes, yet I was working two jobs to keep the family afloat. Then when I left because she didn’t love me, she send me to court for child support. This was the same person whom I helped get out of poverty with the mere sweat of my forehead working long hours so that she and her family would be able to eat. Now, I am 50, stuck with a $110, 000 student loan which I took out to help the family with rent, and her salon which was not going well and I helped her out by paying the rent on more than one occasion. I have to work two jobs to pay all of those loans off and see my 7 year old daughter so I can’t move on and seek out another relationship at 50 because I have no time. NO women in her right mind would go with me because of my situation. Who would do that. People advise that I move on but how? I have to be with my daughter and no woman will tolerate that. So basically, I am screwed, no more love, no romance no chance for a family because of my current situation. What is going through her mind now as I suffer in silence?

    • hello<
      I will go out with you. I like older man. I def understand what you are going thru. but e-mail me and we can chat. Hope all is well.

    • I’m sorry you had to go through that. That woman completely used you. I am a guy, and I too was born and raised in the Dominican Republic. That woman is trash! But so many men like yourself are so foolish, and fall for women like her. You’re 50, so you’re not old. Granted you’re almost 20 years older than me, but 50 isn’t old. Suck it up, and leave that witch! You need to date other women, and that’s all I recommend doing. You aren’t in a position to enter another relationship, but don’t give up on love. Don’t give up hope. Try to be there for your daughter, and take it one day at a time.

    • Sounds horrible.. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. But don’t give up, just because she isn’t the right person doesn’t mean that the right person isn’t out there. Good for you for walking away, and awesome that you took on children that weren’t yours. I wish you much luck!

    • Woman love kids and respect a man that takes care of their own. If no woman then you still hands your daughter and you can give her all you got.
      Get over that girl. She used you all along. Stop giving her anything, don’t pay any attention

  18. I just divorced my husband after 8 years of marriage. I found he was cheating . It cost me 100.000.00 but I’m happy and you can’t put a price on happiness.life is short! The time you waste with a cheater is time you are losing from some one who will love you!

    • I never cheated on my wife, never abused her and spend just about every penny I earned on her or her kids. But she fell out of live regardless. Why do you think she stopped loving me? Was it because I gained weight?

      • Ocasio, I believe that when your truly in love to that person even he/she gains weight or already had, the feeling wont change because you love the person no matter how he/she changed her physical looks. I feel you loved her very much, the only problem is that she is a woman who doesn’t appreciate your love. I hope she will regret and change for the better. About your problem on your child support and other stuff, if the woman really loves you and you will tell the real situation, she will understand and even help you. It doesn’t mean that you have a not good past that you will not have a good future, it depends on you how you will find your true love and be happy that you can keep now and forever and that you wont regret living with her for a lifetime. Don’t give up on finding your true love whoever it is, just be careful on your way finding her and give importance to your self and balance it with her. Love yourself and love her the way she loves you. I may not be perfect but I hope I helped or even just replied to your post here. God bless you and pray for what your heart desires and what you want with all your heart and focus while praying to share to God, i know in some way he will help.You choose to live the rest of your life happy so go for it and do what makes you happy. 🙂

  19. I know this is the truth but what I don’t know is how to leave
    I am nothing to him but he tells me he does not know how to love because the way he was never shown love
    what do I do he says he loves me but he never talks to me he always is with friends and he never puts me first and tells me if I have his friend stop coming down here he will leave me when his friend always tries to cause trouble for us and our marrage I am so lost he has broke my heart

    • You’re going nowhere already if you’re nothing to him..its probably difficult for you to be on your own, but if you’re nothing to him..you are in a way already on your own..just in a state of denial

  20. Thankyou for this article its been helpfull ive been with my mate for 27 years 10 years has been down fall ,haven’t sleep in same bed for a year ,and was put in basement since out 4 2015.i tried enough.i love her but dhe don’t love me.your right i think it time to find some one who loves me .

  21. Thankyou for this article its been helpfull ive been with my mate for w 7 years 10 years has been down fall ,haven’t sleep in same bed for a year ,and was put in basement since out 4 2015.i tried enough.i love her but dhe don’t love me.your right i think it time to find some one who loves me .

  22. love is just a name don’t come here and tell me that you love me make me to see that you do. Eish here’s the big thing I’m in with someone who doesn’t love me at all she’s tell me about her boyfriend I wish I was her…..

  23. I have been with my man since 2012 and I wanna know is he still cheating cause he kissed a girl 9 times and I just wanna know what other people think im scard I am 21 with a 1 year old and 5 year old and one on the way by him and I wanna know do you people think he still cheating help me please

    • He kissed a girl 9 times…thats cheating. Leave him and dont be afraid no matter what your situation theres always someone else for you

    • If he loves you he will stay by your side and change for the better and wont do that again. But he is going to do it again many time more, its not love and he has his own issues. I hope you can find it out if he really cares about you. You can still move on, don’t worry about the future if you can do things right now, don’t make yourself suffer like that because when a man loves you he will be caring, honest, loyal and loving to you. You can still stand up and do what you think is right and will change your life forever with no regrets. Make yourself stronger and give importance to yourself, you are like a treasure, even if you were found already, it doesn’t mean you belong to that person, find a man who are worth for your precious value and will love and take care of you for a lifetime. You can still find true love just be brave and have faith to God that he will help you on your way to end the struggle and focus on your true treasures and that’s your children. Be brave and stand up on what you want and pray to God for guidance and motivation. I hope I helped or even just replied to your post 🙂

  24. I need help my husband and going on 18 years we never talk he is always with friends he doesn’t even hear me when I talk he always has this friend with him always he hadn’t even kissed me in years no sex ever he doesn’t even hug me I’m going crazy i til him i know he doesn’t love me any more that he needs to give him self time to honestly think and realize because when hr days I’m glad you know what I’m thinking do he says i love you but he will not talk about our problems he is doing so many thing to avoid me on a fail basises that he never used to do but he is all u know I can’t believe he says i love you and not how can he distroy me like this i def ont understand my heart is being ripped out my chest please help me someone i am really going nuts in my mind

    • I know how you feel. I am going through the same thing. I loved my wife with all my heart and for her to just stop loving me and treat me like shit is too much to take at times.

    • Before that thing happened that he changed like that, can you still remember if what happened that made him feel like that? There’s a reason if a person is like that, but if its just small thing or none, maybe he is just making his way out in your relationship, but I hope you will be okay. If you still see there’s a chance you could find a way to talk to him in a nice and calm way, find a way. You can ask him what is really the problem he acted that way, he may not answer but at least tell him if he still care about you and what you feel. If there’s still a chance to fix it, you can still do it or even try. But if he really wont answer I guess its him that is a problem and that means he has his own issues. You can still move on and have time for yourself. Give importance to your self and find your true love that you will spend your everyday with happiness and no regrets. Everyone deserve to love and be loved. You choose what you really do on your problem, I just want to help or even just reply to your post. God bless us all and pray always to God for your concern, find what really makes you happy and live the rest of your life happy. Find your true self worth and find the right man worth for your love and effort. 🙂

  25. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 12 yrs, no kids, not married. I’m 32 and he is 30. It seems like we been arguing almost every single day for the last couple of months and I can honestly say I feel like he don’t love me anymore. It’s sad to say because I would do anything for this man and he doesn’t want to see or believe it. He recently told me he doesn’t know if he wants a future with me, he doesn’t know if he wants to marry me. We talked about marriage and kids several times and this is the first time I heard him speak negative towards our future. Those words crushed my heart and I can’t stop thinking if I’m in this relationship alone. I asked him if he’s not in love with me anymore and he gets defensive and doesn’t want to talk about it. He tells me he’s miserable when he’s mad at him and he always puts me down. He always makes me feel like im not good enough and everything I do he doesn’t appreciate it. Im not lazy, I work, clean, do laundry, occasionally rub his back, I try my best. I told him to be honest with me, I told him I have no problem leaving this relationship but he holds me back from going. He is busy and I do have to beg for his time, he does tell certain people I’m his wife and I’m just really confused. Am I smothering him? What do I need to do? Pls help thanks

  26. Sincerely pls i dnt believe in love,to me they don’t exist, i ve seen many or movies that pple confess love but does somethings hurtful.besides d only tin i bliv is God’s love, cos men at times are like flowers that fade away

  27. This article is really helpful. Gives a clear cut guide to relationships. Guess my problem is the role playing. Playing mom and dad to kids, while husband gallivanting, just confuses everything and I became resentful.

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  29. Im so confused . currently i just broke up with my man. Everything is going wrong ! Idk if he doesnt love me anymore or if we need a break .. Weve been together for 1 year and 4 months and just couple days ago he decided to break up with me because he says i act like a child . everytime he would break up with me he would say he was leaving for good and would cone back . i love him so much and missed him so i would let him back in . everything fell apart when we moved in . i wouldnt trust him and he eventually got tired of it . i dont knkw what to do to make it better ?? If i still can …

      • I was in a relationship for almost two years, and I forgave him each time he betrayed me and apologized to him even when he was the one in the wrong. To him he was always right because since he was a little older he always said that he had more experience and no matter what i would do or say i was always in the wrong… I kept trying to make him happy because i loved him so much, i still do… He dumped me because I contacted the girl whom he said was not willing to let him go and i wanted to tell her to leave him alone and stop bothering us… I told him that i emailed her… couple days later he calls me because the girl contacted him regarding the email… he called that same day and told me I was harassing her, i was disrespectful to her and to him and that he doesn’t want me anymore… called me names after names…. not even once did he defend me. He used to ignore my texts, calls, emails for weeks to punish me whenever i did something he did not like. I always forgave him for all the pain he caused me however, when it came to me… he could never found it in his heart to do the same…
        You should leave before you find yourself broken and alone because let me tell you, the feeling does not go away and the little trust you had in finding a man who will love you and cherish you… well it will be gone!

  30. am in relationship but when we are together everyone seem to be in his business no conversation after reading this I hve find out that my relationship is
    not there any more
    thank u

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